Violet Blue has written numerous books on the topic of sex, but in the end there is what you can chat with Grandma: And Seal 'Kiss: Tips, tricks and techniques for distributing Knockout Kiss. As an embrace national holiday is almost upon us, we thought we'd check with some of Violet snogging his best advice.

Em & Lo: Do ​​you think that kissing good chemistry is a reliable indicator of good sexual chemistry and the opposite occurs, if the kiss is bad, you think that sex is likely to be poor?

Violet Blue: When we first kiss, it is often the moment, we know - immediately - even if we do not "click" chemistry with someone. Our senses are fully engaged and we're really drink at all, sight, taste, smell, touch, sound, the essence of the person, we literally tasting. There are parts of us here and meet the person we kiss, we are not even aware, much less in control. It's exciting! So if we can not close our eyes for a minute and listen to your body and intuition, the kiss is a reliable barometer of whether it will be hot - or not.

If you want to give the first kiss, how can you say that this would be welcome?

In addition, we ask kindly? Well, if you're one of the lucky few who "just know" you're really lucky, but if you're like the rest of us, you may want to look for concrete signs and signals. When you're ready to go and kiss your lips look to see if they are pressed together and attractive, or relaxed and ready to kiss. See if the other person is unknowingly (or knowingly) by mimicking the body language, mirroring means that they are ready to follow suit. And see if they are physically close, closer than usual. People who want to have physical contact with the tip for you, and resolve more closely than would be typical of acquaintances.

So if you're too shy to offer the first kiss, it means you can use body language to let anyone know that a kiss would be welcome?

Yes! Make eye contact for a count of three to five seconds. If you dare, smile at the end of your account. Nodding their closeness, especially during contact with eyes. If this fails, try the eyes after a second time and look at the lips and eyes before smiling again and looking away. If you still do not get the hint, start counting your eye contact, smile, and call attention to your lips touch the corner of the mouth for a quick second finger. That way you subliminally saying, "Behold, my friend."

What is your favorite kind of kiss?

Mmmm, wow, what a question. I saw so many I love. I love the sleepy morning kisses and sweet with the mouth closed and lips soft. I love love kiss in public and one of us is just getting up for a cup of coffee, a quick tender and "be back" when you think that one seeks. Nothing in the world can not really describe the first kiss, when your senses go into overdrive, but I try again and again with my favorite hunks! But the versatility of the French kiss is sublime, and it is easy to wake up with the right partner.

What is your favorite trick or tips first kiss?

The first kiss is a little taste: As soon as chew mint leaves, a delicious roast coffee, especially chocolate, a hint of whiskey.

What tips to improve your kissing?

Practice! And kiss the way you want to be kissed. Also, keep a good oral hygiene in the palm of your delicate (clean) hands to get a sense of feeling, remember to slow down (but do not hold still, relax kissing is a problem common), do not forget the rest of the body, use your hands for affection, and learn to trust you to let go and really pour your passion into it, once you start.

What are some of the worst kiss faux pas?

The repression of the language - and everywhere - and kisses as if seeking to hide coins in someone's cheek, kissing while too drunk, bad breath, groping, soft, is animal sounds scary, kisses is usually enough to bite someone's face ... is not a zombie movie, is a kiss. Oh, and having a crazy humpfest kissing in public. This bothers everyone and glamor is in your head.

What new moves or tricks kissing overrated?

Pretending the other cheek for a kiss, then turning the head. It is the worst! Argh! I did spend too much time and it's just sleazy and serious, and we feel that we've been duped! Do. No. Do. This. Ever. But surprise sneaky kiss in general. They work very well in movies, but they rarely play well in real life it puts your kiss-ee in an uncomfortable position.

And what are the tricks or moves kiss underestimated the news?

Request for a kiss. It seems too obvious, but when I do laugh and smile and say something like "I could deserve or need a kiss after" is just ... take that approach. And what looks like a kiss that will happen and then politely holding that makes us want more (which works in both directions.) As for the gadgets, the cooling of the mouth (with ice or a cold drink) or heating (with a hot drink) right before a kiss can be an unforgettable surprise - a very good way, that is.

So, do you think that old song, "If you want to know if he loves you so it's in his kiss? Is it a kiss always tell the truth?

About love and the kiss goes, our bodies can tell if you click on our chemistry, but our hearts and our brains tend to sing a different tune. You can not tell if he is, or if your love is true with a kiss, love is much more than that, of course. But in many ways, kissing can not tell a lie. You can tell if your feelings change with kisses. If you are not the same (as in shallow water), you know that is far more than you - but if your passionate kisses or tender package for each trip, even if they are fast, so I hope he's ready to give the news to her cat, her best friend, and perhaps his mother.

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If your room has been reduced to a castle style Tashiki harm their children, or worse, your bed is turning in his closet, they do not have time to clean, said two things about you - you're probably not getting throughout the organization and skills are embarrassing.

Tired of boredom in your bedroom? Want to add a touch of adventure to your sex sessions? Maybe it's time you converted your bedroom into a veritable Garden of Eden to add that sizzle between the sheets.

We bring you a list of 10 pillars, which are a necessity in the rooms of each pair.

So start collecting these bases and the love that could be a hot night real action.

"If you do not have a TV in the bedroom, the frequency (of sexual intercourse) doubles," said Serenella Salo Multi whose team of psychologists questioned 523 Italian couples to see what effect television had on their sex life.

Normally when people decorate their room, they focus on creating a good place to sleep. After all, it is what it is.

But, as you probably know, the bedroom is also the number one for a couple of the head when they want sex.

Whether it's the first time or the thousandth you saw, heard the bedroom, either to increase or reduce the sexual experience.

Therefore, make your bedroom into a space that is comfortable, colorful and welcoming one of the easiest things and what I can do for your sex life.

This applies to both men and women (although women usually pay more thought to its surroundings during sex than men).

Sex Tips Bedroom

Kiss and kiss. Kiss sweet, hard, fast, slow, happy, hungrily, lightly and carelessly. All kinds of kisses will help you bond with your partner, to keep warm, and enjoy the moment.

Appreciate, decorate and celebrate their own and their partners. Jewelry, lingerie, feathers, fringes, silk, velvet, massage oil, candles, what looks good is good.

And 'sexy things together for a long time before hitting the sheets. Dancing together. Visit lingerie or sex toys store. Leave sexy notes to each other. Give each other gifts soon.

Make Love To a lot of energy over time. Sex at midnight after a romantic dinner in a position to work with young people, but we are likely to feel full, expanded, and ready to sleep.

Enjoy quality snuggle time before, during and after. Taking the other, a feeling of warmth and texture of their skin, is one of the most sweet and sexy lovemaking.

Laugh a lot. Stupid games, to come up with specific words, teasing one another, experience with children. Laughter is bonding, cheerful, sexy and timeless.

How Sex Room

Clean room. It will not be much sex request a room in disarray. Remove clutter and dust and keep the room clean and tidy, and have it ready for romance.

Create a pleasant fragrance in the room that is not too uncontrollable, such as spraying, spray some perfume Musk Cologne favorite scent a small room or spouse, or using scented candles.

Repaired. Painting the bedroom and buy a new bed linen. Fresh coat of paint will be cleaner and more attractive.

Common colors are known to induce a fervor include bright colors such as red or pink for the excitement is said to create opportunities for romance.

Make your bed. Cushions in different textures and even in bed can do wonders.

Making a type of fabric and sheets pillowcases and blankets in the second. Feeling a variety of tissues in our skin can be bent erotic sensations

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First Use green sex toy

According to the Durex Global Survey of Sex, 43% of Americans have used a vibrator. Dildos, vibrators, anal beads, cock rings, and the rest of the happy family of sex toys can be exciting and rewarding, alone or with a partner, but many store-bought sex toys contain, among other things, chemicals called phthalates, a substance used to soften hard plastics like PVC and give that feeling cold. There is some concern about the toxicity and health risks of phthalates (in 2004, the EU banned certain phthalates in toys for children), especially in sex toys that are used in hot and humid places. Suspect a warning sign is a warning found on most sex toy packages stating that the inner ring is "just for the novelty." TreeHugger suggests playing it safe. Choose toys glass, metal, silicone, hard plastics or elastomers. Put a condom on a dildo suspect is also a good initiative.

2. Lubricate

Feeling the need for lubrication or not, a little can add something extra slipperyness any tumble. As you would any other personal care product, go as natural as possible and try to avoid petroleum products, artificial fragrances, flavors and colors. There are even found organic lubricants. For more information on what to look for, see How to consult the women of Green care is also suitable for men).

3rd Condom use

Safe sex, a child-free, nothing is better than latex condoms. Vegans are looking for latex option (though derived from trees, most latex has a milk enzyme added) can check the Glyde condoms. Not yet reached that latex condoms are biodegradable and the effects of additives and lubricants to be biodegradation. According to most sources, lambskin condoms are biodegradable but are only effective against pregnancy, not STDs. Polyurethane condoms are essentially plastic and not biodegradable. Used condoms are best sent to a landfill. Flushing a condom down the toilet is not as good as this clogs pipes, treatment plants and rivers. So be honest, reduce, reuse, recycle just does not apply when it comes to tires.

4. Give (and receive) gifts sexy

Getting a gift is always elegant and useful in the foreground. Organic massage oils, fair trade chocolate, or a bottle of biodynamic red wine are hot options. For Valentine's Day, you can also get all fair trade goodie bag for your Lovie. Of course, romance and good sex know no price, and a poem by heart massage, hot role-playing games, or dinner for two at home may be the hottest gifts for everyone.

If your selection of sex toys is a power tool, buy a rechargeable, or use your own rechargeable batteries. Rechargeable vibrating toys include the Aphrodite Wand, the Acuvibe, the Lily and Iris from Lelo and Fun Factory toys. Check the TV Treehugger How to Buy a green sex toy for more.

Is fifth green, sexy fun

Sexy play can be green and efficient as well. As seen on TreeHugger TV, shower together to save water (if things steamier, we suggest you take the room and not leave the shower running). In winter, some very warm loving before bed can get the roasting room, that is, the thermostat can be lower (see How green heating system, for more information). A nice bike ride for two is a fossil fuel-free so that the blood flow and can also be very difficult, especially for the ladies. And of course the classic candlelight dinner is a delicious way to create the environment and save on energy bills.

6. Put a small bamboo bed

If you've never experience bamboo bed sheets, you're missing. Bamboo fabric is silky and slippery (but not slippery so you slide out of bed), wicks moisture, has natural antimicrobial properties, quickly becomes a renewable resource, and is very sexy.

7. Talking about the unspeakable: Eco-Underwear

Slinky, slippery, sexy. These are all good things when it comes to some sassy skivvies for the bedroom. Organic cotton, hemp, silk, bamboo and other renewable fibers make a very sexy lingerie and underwear. If you browse around, go for quality, not novelty. The purchase of a suit bedroom, which is used only for a couple of times is not a great buy. Face, unless you're famous, nobody on Ebay is going to buy those pants before hand, even if only wore them once. We recommend that you shell out more dollars for something stylish, sexy and sustainable that can be worn when the mood is right for the next few years. If any of the exotic end, check out Enamore g = 9.8. Reasonable and simple, see Buenostyle and American Apparel. A middle ground, try GreenKnickers.

8th sweetness of juice?

There are strong rumors that vegetarians have the best tasting love juices (though some elements of the plant kingdom, you may want to avoid, like asparagus and garlic). If you are not already vegetarian, lover, and it is a romantic occasion / hot date in your future, give the vegetarian or vegan diet a try. Although it does something to your liking, you can score points for being a good steward of the planet. The meat industry is incredibly resource intensive, accounting for 70% of water pollution in the United States. Reduce your meat consumption is one of the greenest you can do. In addition, triathletes and many other super-people swear by a vegan diet for prolonged endurance (always a good thing). For a survey very funny but totally explicit the connection fluid food / body, read Hank Hyena test Salon.com.

9. In turn natural aphrodisiacs

Since ancient times, have turned to lovers of natural herbs and special foods to find stimulation, endurance and sexual health. Although we can not guarantee that all these things, and all supplements should be taken with caution and / or professional advice, it is rumored that herbs like ginseng, kava root, damiana leaves, kelp, tribulus, ginko biloba, Rhodiola rosea, and of course Horny Goat Weed can help stoke the flames of passion even if certified organic. A lot of foods are also used to stimulate the sexual sense, and of course organic wine and champagne to be trusted and aphrodisiacs.

10. Meeting this special green lover

Nothing is worse than meeting a really promising guy or girl, and then realize that he is Escalade-driving, non-recycling, Earth, Messer-upper. What are you going to do? Try to change them? To sleep with them anyway and try to ignore their unconscious way? Forget it. Go for the green lover. Farmers' markets, Critical Mass, a local Green Drinks, Whole Foods checkout Island may be good places to meet people. Series of match-making sites (see Additional direct reading) may also be finding great places that embrace Hugger.

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Technical advice dating can work perfectly all the people you love or do not want to fall in love. As a result, we have great tips today.

Mind - People love of heart, but the smart ones use in mind when it comes to date online. When using online services, you must be very careful at every step you take, or partners.

Online dating site - We ask people to choose the dating site reliable and reputable. You can find several sites just minutes from Nice on the Internet. Please do not use the services of these sites that offer free or partners.

Security - Please note that you can not physically see a person who is dating online. Therefore, it is important for you to ensure safety first. It is not known to each other is their right and duty to safeguard your personal and confidential. No escape or liberation from those who are not physically visible

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1. Be creative

"The longer we are together, the more we open ourselves to each other. I think that trust is the secret to a sex life a lot, because it gives us a chance to be really creative. We tie each other with handcuffs and His touch, play with toys and having sex outdoors. We also made sex tape. sure to keep the romance alive! "Jodie *, 27

Sex and relationship expert Jo-Anne Baker admits that this is a great way to have fun in the bedroom. "Handcuffs and bandages are designed to make you feel your control is taken away and given to another person
is a big turn-on for both, "she said." But it is important to agree on clear limits first. "

Expert Tip: Try new things, where you have complete control. Try the ribbon to tie yourself first so you can cancel if you do not want.

2. Use a secret code word

"My partner and I use a code word for sex We call 'Fight Club' and you know the rule. They do not talk about Fight Club is like a game we play just between us is our secret .. it is a huge turn-on, and we laugh when we have a real fight. We cry in public, "Would you fight against this?" And sometimes we'll go out and find a place, a place insolent and relaxed, our version of a "struggle". "Sam *, 21

"It's fun to share something that has a different meaning for you and your partner," says Baker. "It is this proximity additional work when you are part of a couple, and allows the network in a public place without saying anything."

Good advice: Try to use a word from another language. (It will make the French even more sexy!)

3. Outside the bedroom

"You have to be more adventurous and keep mixing things - do not limit sex in the bedroom Try it on the kitchen bench or dining table and 'really exciting to think that could be taken at any time, or someone to look also to be brave and try a different location every week .... Kama Sutra books to help me when I'm stuck on ideas! "Julie *, 25

"Having sex outside in public is illegal!" Warns Baker. "But choosing the right environment can be incredibly important for women to wake up and add excitement. When you are in a new relationship, explore different places and be more creative, whereas people in a long-term plan for. "

4th Look carefully without clothes

"After several years together, we would be ourselves and go a little 'out of the pink, so we decided to invest in and started working out to improve the appearance. Not only have we lost a lot of weight, but we found each other sexiest we went forward. I also started a collection of lingerie that is sure to help! "Amber *, 26

According to Baker, is not only supports the idea of ​​a hot sex life, it is also a good excuse to get fit and healthy. "Take control of your body gives you more sexually oriented and given to your partner. In-form body to produce better orgasms and have a high level of excitement."

5 Play a game

"My partner and I like to play the" yes "to the game to make our sex more fun. It 'really easy, but definitely fun. Think of the question, but do not say it out loud. Your husband

must respond to your question with a resounding silence, "yes." You can do anything and everything for him. "Gemma, 28 *

Baker admits that this is a fun game. "There's a lot of trust involved," he advises. "While yes, the game is a great way to feel close to you and your needs are met, you will need to have a relationship with someone who does not ask you to do something that could hurt you."

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The last few years does not seem bright to the extent that the economy is concerned. People try to continue to live their lives, albeit in a more budget conscious. Movie nights are nights of DVD, family dinners used most often at home, you get the picture.

However, your dating life should be sacrificed because of the recession? According to a report of single Love Geist you are looking for a partner's financial situation is evolving rapidly. It is not because people are looking for Sugar Daddies and their mothers Cougar, but because they want comfort and loving relationship, which conteract pressure determined by economic problems.

"[In times of anxiety], we know that people tend to join more and perhaps start to value things that are not obvious physically," psychologist Dr. Cecile d "Felice said the report." One of the most important values ​​is the respect and regard? There is nothing more exciting than someone known to watch your back. "

Just goes to show that in periods of financial difficulty, people are always willing to invest in love.

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Long before recorded history began, men and women attending. There were various ways in different cultures, different rules for different times of meetings, and each has some of the anthropological fascination. Everyone has heard of "Knight", so that the idea of ​​chivalry is dead has become a sort of cliche.

Although the most famous code of courtship, the idea of ​​the knight is not incredibly important (in the strict interpretation) outside the time of Shakespeare. Now, there are different physical cultures, sub-communities, and also a modern culture online, each with its own rules of etiquette dating and the complexities that are grown organically on the appropriate forms, and requires every level of society.

The ritual of seduction is one of the behaviors define the culture of any group and should be, because it leads to the next generation, after all. Casual dating of arranged marriages, cultural norms surrounding the meetings are very different. With the ability to travel in the modern era and the emergence of many multicultural cities and companies around the world, there is a mixture of mashed potatoes or large set of codes of practice of countless beliefs about what we tend to call "dating. "For these and other reasons, there are almost 700,000 Web pages of discussing one thing that everyone wants to know how to procreate -. And the way to sex almost always leads through meetings.

Rules of Dating AM

AskMen.com weighed in your account to make sure you are aware of the rules that make people successful in the dating world of dating. When should I call, how long to talk, if you leave a voicemail message? It's maddening questions that can leave a hole in your stomach if you're not prepared.

Not to worry, though: AskMen.com is for you. What is the history of online dating? It 'a legitimate way to get started? AskMen.com has you covered. We also got a few agents behind the lines to give you an insider what women really think. The first 10 primer is completely special education programs, AskMen.com is considered the dating rules that will keep you out of the game and rigor.

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